I have a new little hobby– watching old ladies. I also watch not-so-old ladies, slightly mature ladies, and almost-old ladies.
For the record, this is my working definition of old: over 500 years old, skin so wrinkled that the eyeballs have completely disappeared into the flaps of skin hanging from the eyebrow region, and the Grim Reaper as constant companion. So please do not send me any hate mail unless you clearly fall into this definition.
At any rate, I’m keeping my eye on the little old ladies because I feel myself hurtling at a startling speed toward my own older years. This is the time to get on the right track. This is my opportunity to not turn into the little old lady who is cranky, peevish, picky, manipulative, or demanding.
Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about. We all have one somewhere, whether it be the family reunion, the house next door, or the church. Age and experience have a way of either refining us and turning us into something beautiful, or damaging us to the extent no one wants to invite us over for the holidays.
I want to be the kind of older woman who grows wiser and kinder and more patient as the years pass. Since I have very little idea of how to do this when left to my own devices, I’m watching the mature ladies God has put in my life and I’m taking notes.
I’d like to report my favorite characters have this amazing ability to calmly, quietly listen to each individual in front of them. They don’t rush in with words or advice. They encourage. They are flexible. They laugh a lot. They read excellent books.
I have no idea how I’m going to get there from here, but that’s what I’m aiming for, at least. How about you? Who’s your favorite old person, and what characteristics do you want to absorb for your own older years?
A God-Filled Life (Titus 2:3-5, from The Message)
Your job is to speak out on the things that make for solid doctrine. Guide older men into lives of temperance, dignity, and wisdom, into healthy faith, love, and endurance. Guide older women into lives of reverence so they end up as neither gossips nor drunks, but models of goodness. By looking at them, the younger women will know how to love their husbands and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives. We don’t want anyone looking down on God’s Message because of their behavior. Also, guide the young men to live disciplined lives.