Major Life Decisions you will probably face sooner or later:

  1. Whom shall I marry?
  2. What shall I do for a career?
  3. Where should I go to college, and what shall I study?
  4. How many children should I have? Biological or adoption?
  5. This house or that house?
  6. A 2006 Toyota Camry or a 2015 BMW 740Li? (I threw that one in for my dear husband.) ((Because he doesn’t want the Camry but can’t afford the BMW.))

None of these choices would be a problem if we could just see the outcome, right? If I could tell that I will marry the wrong person then we buy the wrong house and I get a useless degree, I could know that I will be eventually living in that BMW we can’t afford. With our 12 adopted children.

I don’t think that BMW comes with enough seat belts for a family of 14 to live in it. I don’t think the Germans intended for it to be a tenement.

In our last blog post we talked about how to make the most of our life in the little ways, in those daily choices that pile up and eventually define us. Today we are looking beyond right this minute to our futures. Our unknown, gaping futures.

Frightening. The future is frightening.

How to not mess up your life 2

Except for this significant fact: As followers of Christ, we have the Holy Spirit and the Bible to guide us. The same God who led Moses through the wilderness with hundreds of slightly stubborn and fearful Jews still leads us today.

We, who are still stubborn and fearful.

The same Holy Spirit who took a bunch of ragtag disciples and turned them into the leaders of the early church is still with us. I don’t think the Apostle John watched Jesus rise to heaven and thought– “In a few years I will write a book that will be the final portion of the written Word. I’m pretty sure that in 2,000 years Christ-followers are going to be having heated debates about the spiritual significance of the beast who rises out of the sea. Won’t that give them something to fight over while they sit around the Sunday school table and eat donuts!”

I don’t think any of those earlier followers had any idea of what their futures held. And yet, mystery of all mysteries, God still accomplished what He needed to accomplish through them. I know this, I read this and believe it, but the fact remains– we still have a part to play in all of this. We do have to make decisions about partners and colleges and careers and family because we can’t just sit in our parents’  basements, paralyzed by fear, waiting for the rapture to suck us out of our indecision.

I’m thinking of the beginning scene of My Big Fat Greek Wedding, where Toula opens the restaurant with her father. (If you haven’t seen this movie, go watch it right now.) Do you remember how miserable she was? How dowdy, sad, and pitiful? By the end of the movie she’s married, doing what she loves, and filled with life. But it started by taking one step forward, even if she didn’t know how it was all going to work out.

As Christ-followers, we need to take that step out in faith. We can’t let fear of disappointing God or making a bad decision paralyze us. If we’re praying for the Holy Spirit’s help and making sure our choices are biblically consistent, at some point we just have to do it. Go! God’s looking for willing and dedicated hearts, not perfect guesses into the future. 

That’s my opinion, at least. I’d love to hear yours. What big decisions frighten you, and how do you make them?

I pray that your hearts will flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called– his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance. I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God’s power for us who believe him. This is the same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead and seated him in the place of honor at God’s right hand in the heavenly realms. (Ephesians 1:17-20, NLT)


5 Comments on How to Not Mess Up Your Entire Life and/or Disappoint God (Part 2)

  1. lisanne3015
    January 9, 2015 at 3:35 pm (3 years ago)

    I have a major decision to make in a couple of weeks and have prayed, asking God to show me specifically what to do. He has, in big ways. Yet, I still lack the courage to do the harder thing, to separate from an unhealthy marriage. Please include me in your prayers. Your words helped. Thanks!

  2. Anthony Baker
    January 9, 2015 at 5:46 pm (3 years ago)

    Grace – I’m thankful for grace (and the fact that this life isn’t eternal). Because I am not a staunch Calvinist, I will freely admit that I have gone against God’s will for my life many, many times. However, I am what I am by the grace of God, firmly held in the grip of His hand. God has never been surprised by any path I’ve chosen, and no tear has ever been wasted; my missteps seem to always lead to the place where He receives the glory.

  3. Jessie Clemence
    January 9, 2015 at 9:35 pm (3 years ago)

    I’m so glad they helped, and I will pray for you!

    January 12, 2015 at 12:31 am (3 years ago)

    My current work situation started with a decision. It’s still a little scary but I keep plowing forward. I pray it will work out the way I want. If it doesn’t, well, I suppose it was not meant to be.